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ENFJ-CM a soyayya: dangantaka, neman aure da dacewa
ENFJ-CM yana kawo halin mai son jama’a, mai hasashe, mai tausayi da mai tsari (tare da mai natsuwa da mai tawali’u) cikin dangantaka. A nan za ku karanta yadda hakan yakan bayyana tare da masoyi, waɗanne daga cikin waɗannan sifofi ne bincike yake danganta su da gamsuwa a dangantaka, da yadda za a tafiyar da bambance-bambance.
Kuna son jama’a, kuna da tausayi, kuna son bincike kuma ana iya dogara da ku, haɗin da ya dace wajen tara mutane a kan wani ra’ayi. Sau da yawa ku ne kuke ɗaukar nauyin kiyaye jituwar ƙungiya da tabbatar da cewa an kammala abubuwa. Kuna kasancewa cikin natsuwa a ƙarƙashin matsi (natsuwar zuciya mai yawa) kuma kuna da tawali’u da adalci (gaskiya da tawali’u masu yawa). Sau da yawa wasu suna ganin ku a matsayin abin dogaro a lokacin wahala da kuma amintattu da nauyi.
- Harafinku na C (Mai natsuwa) albishir ne a nan: natsuwar zuciya a wajen kowane masoyi tana daga cikin abubuwan da suka fi dogaro wajen hasashen gamsuwa a dangantaka.[1][2]
Yadda ENFJ-CM yake soyayya, harafi bayan harafi
Yadda kowane harafi yakan bayyana. Waɗannan bayanin sifofin ne, ba sakamakon bincike ba.
Wataƙila kuna son raba rayuwarku a zamantakewa: gabatar da masoyi ga abokai, fita tare, da tattauna abubuwa yayin da suke faruwa.
Wataƙila kuna jin daɗin tattauna ra’ayoyi, tsare-tsare da ma’anar rayuwa da masoyi, kuma kuna daraja sababbin abubuwa a abubuwan da kuke yi tare.
Wataƙila kuna lura da yadda masoyinku yake ji kuma kuna karkata ga sassautawa don kiyaye zaman lafiya.
Wataƙila kuna son tsare-tsaren tare da hasashen abubuwa, kuma kuna nuna jajircewa ta hanyar cika ƙananan alkawura.
Wataƙila kuna kasancewa cikin natsuwa a jayayya kuma kuna saurin farfaɗowa bayan rikici, wanda yake taimaka wa dangantaka ta daidaita.
Wataƙila kuna da gaskiya, ba ku son wasan yaudara, kuma kuna tsammanin haka daga masoyi.
Sifofin ENFJ a dangantaka: bincike da shawarwarin aiki
- Yawan sauƙin kai na masoyi yana da alaƙa da ƙarin gamsuwa a dangantaka.[1]
- Ƙwazon masoyi yana da alaƙa da ƙarin gamsuwa a dangantaka.[1]
- A wani bincike na shekaru biyar kan ma’aurata, samun abokin aure mai ƙarin ƙwazo ya yi hasashen ƙarin gamsuwa da aiki, samun kuɗi mafi yawa da yiwuwar ƙarin girma ga ɗayan.[3]
- Son jama’a na masoyi yana da raunanniyar alaƙa da gamsuwa a dangantaka. Bai kai muhimmancin natsuwar zuciya, sauƙin kai ko ƙwazo ba.[1]
- Idan masoyinku ya fi son kaɗaici, ku yarda da wuri kan yawan lokacin zamantakewa da kowannenku yake so. Wannan bambanci ne da aka saba gani kuma ana iya warware shi.
- A nazarce-nazarce, buɗaɗɗen tunani kusan ba shi da alaƙa da gamsuwar masoyi. Son bincike na tare batun ɗanɗano ne, ba mai hasashen dacewa ba.[1]
Shin dacewa ta dogara ne da kasancewa nau’i ɗaya?
- Kamanceceniyar hali tana bayyana ƙalilan ne kawai. A manyan samfurori na ƙasa, kamanceceniyar masoya ba ta ƙara kusan komai ba bayan sifofin kowannensu.[4]
- Abin da yake hasashen ingancin dangantaka shi ne galibi natsuwar zuciya, sauƙin kai da ƙwazo na kowane masoyi; son jama’a yana da ƙaramin matsayi.[1]
Don haka babu “abokin rayuwa mafi dacewa” ga ENFJ-CM da bincike yake goyon baya. Duk da haka bambance-bambance suna kawo saɓani, kuma ana iya tafiyar da wannan saɓani.
ENFJ-CM tare da masoyi mai bambanci: abubuwan da suke kawo saɓani da mafita
Inda ku da ɗayan mutumin kuke a gefe dabam-dabam na harafi ɗaya. Shawarwarin aiki, ba sakamakon bincike ba.
Kuzarin zamantakewa dabam-dabam: ku yarda kan tsarin ƙarshen mako na yau da kullum (misali dare ɗaya na fita da rana ɗaya ta natsuwa), maimakon yin ciniki a kan kowane taro idan ya zo.
Ɗaya yana neman sababbin abubuwa, ɗayan kuma yana son abin da aka saba. Ku riƙa musanya wajen zaɓi kuma ku kiyaye al’ada ɗaya da kuke so ku duka.
Salon saɓani dabam-dabam: ɗaya yana faɗa, ɗayan kuma yana ƙyale abu. Ku yarda cewa faɗin matsala da wuri kulawa ne, ba hari ba.
Ɗaya yana tsarawa, ɗayan kuma yana ƙirƙira nan take: ku raba ayyuka bisa ƙarfin kowa (wanda zai yi ajiyar wuri ya bibiya, wanda zai sabawa da yanayi) maimakon yin jayayya kan salo.
Ɗaya ya fi saurin jin damuwa. Masoyin da ya fi natsuwa ya fi taimakawa idan ya fara gane yadda ɗayan yake ji kafin ya yi ƙoƙarin warware matsalar.
Ra’ayoyi dabam-dabam game da matsayi da kuɗi. Ku tattauna a fili game da kashe kuɗi, buri da ma’anar “nasara” ga kowannenku.
Abin da haruffan -CM suke ƙara wa ENFJ a soyayya
C = Mai natsuwa (natsuwar zuciya), M = Mai tawali’u (gaskiya da tawali’u). Gwajin gargajiya na haruffa huɗu ba ya auna ko ɗaya daga cikinsu, amma duka biyu suna da muhimmanci a soyayya:
- Ƙarancin saurin damuwa a wajen kowanne daga cikin masoyan yana daga cikin abubuwan da suka fi dogaro wajen hasashen gamsuwa da ɗorewar dangantaka.[1][2]
- A wani bincike da ya bibiyi ma’aurata tun daga lokacin baiko har tsawon shekaru da dama, saurin damuwa a wajen kowane ɗayansu yana daga cikin abubuwan da suka fi hasashen saki da rashin farin ciki a aure. Natsuwarku fa’ida ce a nan.[5]
- Yawan gaskiya da tawali’u yana nufin ƙarancin haɗuwa da sifofin yaudara na “dark triad”, waɗanda suke lalata aminci.[6]
Yaya ƙarfin waɗannan sakamako yake?
- Haruffa huɗu na gargajiya suna daidai da huɗu daga cikin sifofin Big Five (son jama’a, buɗaɗɗen tunani, sauƙin kai, ƙwazo), shi ya sa binciken Big Five ya shafe su.[7]
- Alaƙoƙin da ke tsakanin sifofi da sakamako gaskiya ne amma kowanne ƙarami ne: alaƙar da aka saba gani tana kusan 0.10 zuwa 0.30, don haka sifofi suna sauya yiwuwa ne maimakon su yanke sakamako. Wani babban aikin maimaita bincike ya tabbatar da yawancin alaƙoƙin da aka gwada, yawanci da tasiri ɗan ƙasa.[8][9]
Layukan da ba su da majiya shawarwarin aiki ne ko bayanin sifofi, ba sakamakon bincike ba.
Gwajin kyauta yana auna dukkan sifofi shida a matsayin percentile. Tambayoyi 62, kusan minti 8, ba rajista.
Ku yi gwajin kyautaKuna da sakamako tuni? Ku kwatanta da masoyinku.
Shafukan da suka shafi wannan
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