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ISTP-CA a soyayya: dangantaka, neman aure da dacewa
ISTP-CA yana kawo halin mai son kaɗaici, mai aiki da zahiri, mai tsauri da mai sassauci (tare da mai natsuwa da mai buri) cikin dangantaka. A nan za ku karanta yadda hakan yakan bayyana tare da masoyi, waɗanne daga cikin waɗannan sifofi ne bincike yake danganta su da gamsuwa a dangantaka, da yadda za a tafiyar da bambance-bambance.
Kuna da shiru, kuna aiki da zahiri, kuna da gaskiya kuma kuna da sassauci. Kuna son fahimtar yadda abubuwa suke aiki ta hanyar yin aiki da su, kuna ƙirƙirar mafita nan take kuma kuna kare ’yancinku. Kuna kasancewa cikin natsuwa a ƙarƙashin matsi (natsuwar zuciya mai yawa) kuma matsayi, nasara da karɓuwa suna motsa ku (gaskiya da tawali’u ƙanana). Wannan yanayi ne na amincewa da kai da son gasa. Babban haɗarinsa yana kan aminci na dogon lokaci.
- Harafinku na C (Mai natsuwa) albishir ne a nan: natsuwar zuciya a wajen kowane masoyi tana daga cikin abubuwan da suka fi dogaro wajen hasashen gamsuwa a dangantaka.[1][2]
Yadda ISTP-CA yake soyayya, harafi bayan harafi
Yadda kowane harafi yakan bayyana. Waɗannan bayanin sifofin ne, ba sakamakon bincike ba.
Wataƙila kuna nuna kulawa ta hanyar mai da hankali da lokaci ku biyu kawai maimakon cikakken jadawalin zamantakewa, kuma wataƙila kuna buƙatar lokacin hutu har daga mutanen da kuke so.
Wataƙila kuna nuna soyayya ta hanyar taimako na zahiri da al’adun yau da kullum masu dogaro fiye da manyan nune-nune ko dogayen hirarraki marasa zahiri.
Wataƙila kun fi daraja gaskiya fiye da kwantar da hankali, kuma kuna iya nuna kulawa ta hanyar warware matsaloli maimakon nuna tausayi.
Wataƙila kuna kawo yin abu nan take da nishaɗi, kuma wataƙila kuna ƙin dangantaka mai cike da jadawali.
Wataƙila kuna kasancewa cikin natsuwa a jayayya kuma kuna saurin farfaɗowa bayan rikici, wanda yake taimaka wa dangantaka ta daidaita.
Wataƙila masoya masu ban sha’awa da salon rayuwa da yake nuna nasara suna jan hankalinku. Tattaunawa a fili kan ma’anar “nasara” ga kowannenku tana hana saɓani.
Sifofin ISTP a dangantaka: bincike da shawarwarin aiki
- Sauƙin kai na masoyi yana da alaƙa da gamsuwa. Ku haɗa suka da karimci da ake iya gani a fili.[1]
- A yankuna 10 na duniya, ƙarancin ƙwazo yana da alaƙa da rashin aminci a dangantaka. Bayyanannun yarjejeniyoyi suna taimakawa.[3]
- Ƙwazon masoyi yana da alaƙa da gamsuwa: cika ƙananan alkawura yana da muhimmanci.[1]
- Ƙwazon abokin aure ya yi hasashen har gamsuwa da aiki, samun kuɗi da ƙarin girma na ɗayan a cikin shekaru biyar, don haka kasancewa abin dogaro a gida yana da tasiri fiye da dangantakar kanta.[4]
- Son kaɗaici yana hasashen gamsuwa a dangantaka kaɗan ƙwarai. Halin yin shiru ba matsalar dacewa ba ne.[1]
- A matsakaici, bambance-bambancen buɗaɗɗen tunani tsakanin masoya suna da ƙaramin tasiri a kan gamsuwa.[1][5]
Shin dacewa ta dogara ne da kasancewa nau’i ɗaya?
- Kamanceceniyar hali tana bayyana ƙalilan ne kawai. A manyan samfurori na ƙasa, kamanceceniyar masoya ba ta ƙara kusan komai ba bayan sifofin kowannensu.[5]
- Abin da yake hasashen ingancin dangantaka shi ne galibi natsuwar zuciya, sauƙin kai da ƙwazo na kowane masoyi; son jama’a yana da ƙaramin matsayi.[1]
Don haka babu “abokin rayuwa mafi dacewa” ga ISTP-CA da bincike yake goyon baya. Duk da haka bambance-bambance suna kawo saɓani, kuma ana iya tafiyar da wannan saɓani.
ISTP-CA tare da masoyi mai bambanci: abubuwan da suke kawo saɓani da mafita
Inda ku da ɗayan mutumin kuke a gefe dabam-dabam na harafi ɗaya. Shawarwarin aiki, ba sakamakon bincike ba.
Kuzarin zamantakewa dabam-dabam: ku yarda kan tsarin ƙarshen mako na yau da kullum (misali dare ɗaya na fita da rana ɗaya ta natsuwa), maimakon yin ciniki a kan kowane taro idan ya zo.
Ɗaya yana neman sababbin abubuwa, ɗayan kuma yana son abin da aka saba. Ku riƙa musanya wajen zaɓi kuma ku kiyaye al’ada ɗaya da kuke so ku duka.
Salon saɓani dabam-dabam: ɗaya yana faɗa, ɗayan kuma yana ƙyale abu. Ku yarda cewa faɗin matsala da wuri kulawa ne, ba hari ba.
Ɗaya yana tsarawa, ɗayan kuma yana ƙirƙira nan take: ku raba ayyuka bisa ƙarfin kowa (wanda zai yi ajiyar wuri ya bibiya, wanda zai sabawa da yanayi) maimakon yin jayayya kan salo.
Ɗaya ya fi saurin jin damuwa. Masoyin da ya fi natsuwa ya fi taimakawa idan ya fara gane yadda ɗayan yake ji kafin ya yi ƙoƙarin warware matsalar.
Ra’ayoyi dabam-dabam game da matsayi da kuɗi. Ku tattauna a fili game da kashe kuɗi, buri da ma’anar “nasara” ga kowannenku.
Abin da haruffan -CA suke ƙara wa ISTP a soyayya
C = Mai natsuwa (natsuwar zuciya), A = Mai buri (gaskiya da tawali’u). Gwajin gargajiya na haruffa huɗu ba ya auna ko ɗaya daga cikinsu, amma duka biyu suna da muhimmanci a soyayya:
- Ƙarancin saurin damuwa a wajen kowanne daga cikin masoyan yana daga cikin abubuwan da suka fi dogaro wajen hasashen gamsuwa da ɗorewar dangantaka.[1][2]
- A wani bincike da ya bibiyi ma’aurata tun daga lokacin baiko har tsawon shekaru da dama, saurin damuwa a wajen kowane ɗayansu yana daga cikin abubuwan da suka fi hasashen saki da rashin farin ciki a aure. Natsuwarku fa’ida ce a nan.[6]
- Ana gina aminci ta hanyar daidaito. Da lokaci, masoyi zai lura da fadanci da nuna abin da ba haka yake ba.[7]
Yaya ƙarfin waɗannan sakamako yake?
- Haruffa huɗu na gargajiya suna daidai da huɗu daga cikin sifofin Big Five (son jama’a, buɗaɗɗen tunani, sauƙin kai, ƙwazo), shi ya sa binciken Big Five ya shafe su.[8]
- Alaƙoƙin da ke tsakanin sifofi da sakamako gaskiya ne amma kowanne ƙarami ne: alaƙar da aka saba gani tana kusan 0.10 zuwa 0.30, don haka sifofi suna sauya yiwuwa ne maimakon su yanke sakamako. Wani babban aikin maimaita bincike ya tabbatar da yawancin alaƙoƙin da aka gwada, yawanci da tasiri ɗan ƙasa.[9][10]
Layukan da ba su da majiya shawarwarin aiki ne ko bayanin sifofi, ba sakamakon bincike ba.
Gwajin kyauta yana auna dukkan sifofi shida a matsayin percentile. Tambayoyi 62, kusan minti 8, ba rajista.
Ku yi gwajin kyautaKuna da sakamako tuni? Ku kwatanta da masoyinku.
Shafukan da suka shafi wannan
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